I wonder if anyone else has this problem.

Since I have learned more about YHWH, his name, the miqra's, etc. I have tried to elighten my wife. She does use the proper names around me and has told me that she tries to use them when she prays, but she seems to be doing it only for me. When I told her about the miqra's and explained to her how and why Easter and Christmas are wrong, she struggled with things. But around Passover, she was easily able to forgo the paganism of Easter in favor of Passover, despite family members giving my daughter an Easter basket. She really stressed over giving up Christmas, but when I explained to her that Yahushua was more than likely born during the Feast of Tabernacles, she was willing to have us do "gift exchange" during that time, instead of Christmas. Now, with Tabernacles so close, we can't afford to give gifts (which to me just feels like we moved "Christmas" up some) to family and friends, so she wants us to do it at Christmas.

So, I have a wife that is trying to cling to errent ways, and I don't know what to do. It is one thing for me to tell other family members that we don't do Christmas anymore, but how do you deal with a spouse who wants to keep doing it? I just had a conversation with her and she was saying something about not wanting to have our daughter feel left out when she is older and everyone around her is having Christmas, getting gifts, and "calling her a 'freak' or something" because she doesn't celebrate Christmas. That bothers me. I don't want to do something I know is wrong just to fit in with everyone. It is hard to convince her it is wrong. How do I do that?

I know some of you will tell me to have her read Yada Yahuweh. I tried that already. I actually got her to sit down with me and us read it together. She just couldn't comprehend it. It was much too in depth for her. The only thing she says she remembers is that dwd means "love," and that is only because my name is David. We only got through the first two chapters. So, how do you teach the truth to someone who has a hard time comprehending anything other than what they grew up learning?

you'll just have to give her time Icy, I mean according to Allah, women are born stupid....sorry for the stupid joke, but all joking aside I have to say that Robskiwarrior is one hundred percent correct. I would say she is doing well, and the fact that she is open to change and will give your "crazy" thoughts the time of day is really wonderful. Maybe you shouldn't start with Yadayahweh. I mean it is absolutely wonderful and it is the book that led me to the truth, but try to find your own way to tell her. Try to show her how much Yahuweh cares about his name, his ways, and his miqras, and try to show her how much Yahuweh and that our "christian" holidays celebrate a sleeping paganism that I almost doubt is sleeping but more like scheming....well that paganism can and will be awakened in the coming months and years. Tell her this with force but with compassion and love

Jeremiah 16:19 - O Yahuweh, my strength, and my fortress, and my refuge in the day of affliction, the Gentiles shall come unto thee from the ends of the earth, and shall say, Surely our fathers have inherited lies, vanity, and things wherein there is no profit. 20 - Shall a man make elohim unto himself, and they are no elohim? 21 - Therefore, behold, I will this once cause them to know, I will cause them to know mine hand and my might; and they shall know that my name is Yahuweh.

Here is a video that might help you from Michael Rood.
http://youtube.com/watch?v=Hqzg2fpanH8

Deut. 30 and after they have been destroyed before you, be careful not to be ensnared by inquiring about their gods, saying, "How do these nations serve their gods? We will do the same." 31 You must not worship the YHWH your God in their way, because in worshiping their gods, they do all kinds of detestable things the YHWH hates. They even burn their sons and daughters in the fire as sacrifices to their gods.

Lev.20.23 You must not live according to the customs of the nations I am going to drive out before you. Because they did all these things, I abhorred them.

Lev.18.3 You must not do as they do in Egypt, where you used to live, and you must not do as they do in the land of Canaan, where I am bringing you. Do not follow their practices.


Here are some verses to start with. Tell her the significance of Egypt in Lev. 18.3. Egypt is not just the land of the pyramids...but the pagan world that lives in superstition and worships false idols at large. It is our own flawed self. We have been made part of Israel...an Israel that was, is and will forever be Yahuweh's people.

You will have to try to find a fellowship that replaces your family's God given need for interaction and community. I hope it will be possible to do that, if not you could start your own havaruh group that studies and spends the miqras together.

You need to establish that you will not walk in the ways of pagans but only in the ways of Yahuweh.....You must show her how ridiculous it is to assume that your daughter is missing out on Christmas...she is missing out on Yahuweh's great gift to us.

Show her how ridiculous childmas is.....but above all things don't rush her and don't be insensitive to her...as I am sure you are....show her you are doing this because you love her and your daughter.

Here is a link that might help you. www.graftedin.com

Thank you all for your encouragement.

I guess it is hard for me to see it from her perspective, because I have always had an inkling of the truth in the back of my mind. Reading YY just confirmed much of what I had already speculated. So it did come quickly for me. Because of that, I guess I subconsiously assume that it should come quickly for everyone. In my mind, I think that it is obvious, all one has to do is read a verse or two and they should have all of the lies shattered. I see it does not work that way though. Thank you for showing me the reality of the situation.

I think things would be easier if I found a fellowship that walked in the ways of YHWH. I grew very disillusioned with the church we were attending. There was one couple that were on the path to the truth who tried out a Messianic congregation and encouraged us to go. I attended the place once and did not feel YHWH there. They were too rabbinical. My friend told me to not be so critical because those people were open to learning the truth. He attended a few more times and then stopped, because there was no love there. So, we are all back at the same church (I hate even calling it that), and don't care for it at all. I don't even know why I attend, other than to interact with people. I can't stomach anything the pastor preaches. He is clueless and is blind and afraid of anything I tell him. I am trying to slowly share the truth with my peers though. I was teaching a class using FH for awhile, but I only got as far as explaining the miqra, and people became overwhelmed.

How much easier it would be if we all lived close enough to fellowship in person. Until I found the forum, I felt like I was one of 3 people in the world that had a clue (Yada and KP being the other two). Knowing kp only lives a few hours away, I really wanted to meet him so I could talk with a like minded believer in person, and give my wife a chance to hear things from someone other than me.

Icy: Is that you, David? Welcome to the forum.

Guys, don't imagine that just because Yada and I have stumbled onto some truth, that we have therefore been able to successfully alter the cultural reality that swirls around us, especially in the coming winter season. Life is a learning process. I can't help but smile sheepishly and shrug when I realize that ten or fifteen years ago, I would have been quite concerned with "putting Christ back in Christmas." When my numerous kids were growing up, it was a wonderful time of year, a time for family and giving and feasting and remembering what God had done for us throughout the year. Now that I know it's just another day, and I've stopped "celebrating" it as such, my grown kids think I've gone round the bend. My family's stopgap solution (since the kids still like to visit home base once in a while) is to try to shift everything from "Christmas" to Thanksgiving. That way, at least, we don't have to explain our antisocial lack of decorations and "holiday spirit." We still get to gather the family around, have a feast, and remember what God has done---without being burdened with the trappings of a bogus religious holiday. I'd love to move it all to the Feast of Tabernacles, but since I didn't know shinola about God's miqrym when my kids were little and sorta teachable, there's an awfully steep learning curve to overcome.

kp

What I meant by starting out with YY is that it can be pretty...heavy....no scratch that...really heavy. There's a lot of truth out there from a lot of sources. YY may appeal to more cerebral types. Think about what engages your wife.
Shalom